04 July 2010

To be or not to be....a PERFECTIONIST

If you are a perfectionist like me, then we have something to talk about today; if you are not one, excuse me, get back for my next write-up, today's is not for you.

Those who are still here, congratulations...we are God's best creation, atleast that's what we think about ourselves. Its true , there is no one in this world who can accomplish what we do, right? And proud human beings, who cannot accept anything lesser to perfection, wise,  constantly vigilant, disciplined, we make life easy for others since they have it ready made.

Downside is that we are obsessed, decently hiding OCD (obsessive-compulsive disorder) under the wrap, never satisfied , often inviting psychosomatic disorders on us for e.g Migraine.

Well, I am not here to discuss this medically, what concerns me of late is that we are not unique as we thought, but in fact the odd ones out. Perceived as hyper critical, meticulous being branded as obsessed, worst thing is we cannot approve our own mistakes , leave alone others tolerating it.

I am surrounded by imperfect species, my loving and lovable ones are happy-go-lucky type. Many of my best friends benefit from my committed, genuine, discerning nature. All said and done, the issue is when I go wrong..imagine me going wrong, while I myself cannot accept that , I have a suspicion that those around me wait desperately for me to err, it starts something like " You too Brutus?" , goes on to victimizing me , deriving immense pleasure from " if you can, why can't we?"  I bet you all have faced similar situation, taken for granted for your perfection,  unemphatically and blatantly dismissed as  inadequate and blemished.

I have thought about it for quite sometime and decided to go against my law; Why are we flawless? Is there any need to be? Afterall , we can also break rules, allow ourselves few pleasures, be one among then majority, more acceptable. Heaven wont fall on Earth if we mess around, or even if it does, who cares? No jewel is made out of pure gold, so ready to get tarnished.

The advantage here is all are pleased, relieved, they don't feel guilty about what they are and we are happy together. Let go, there is definitely fun is being imperfect, enjoy it and most important is when you go wrong others now do not wait to victimize you; instead they are glad to help you out; may be we can get healthier too.

Be a Roman while in Rome !!!!  Let's be perfectly imperfect !!!!!


praneeth said...

intresting :)

Anonymous said...

Hmm, you are improving, be a human while on Earth :D

Mindbite said...

Absolutely perfect !!!!

Anonymous said...

I lived with dominant perfectionist and decided not to be a perfectionist at all. Perfectionists are actually not so. They wanted to find fault in others. They do not have mastery in certain things but taking cleaning up job as a time pass, meanwhile they wanted others also to think and act like them..this is a pshychological disorder...OCD/any xyz. But, treating them is not possible. This is and incurable one. Tolerating them is a big sin. Has show them how messy one can and take them to the edge is the cure fo this disease.....hahah..hope your sons and husband does that to you

Rajeev G

Nik said...

@Rajeev, lol :D

Blogger said...

I agree with you, within limits, its good.

Anonymous said...

Interesting. I am living with one of the "hard nuts" and trying to unwind that person. Human beings are created to be imperfect including the so called "OCD"s. To me its better to be an imperfectionist with cetern moral and ethical standards.


Hema said...

Good one akka! Which made me think too... not that i m a perfectionist... but i gez there is someone just waiting for us to slip up :P

the lady said...

@ Rajeev,I am a little particular, thats it, not a psycho :D

@ AK, yea...

@Hema, :D :D

Gayatri said...

Hmmm... I am not sure I agree 100%. I have a hard time letting go of some of my mistakes and am probably harder on myself than on anyone else. I hold myself AND my kid to a high standard because I believe that unless we shoot for the stars, we won't even reach the tree tops. Is it wrong to expect ourselves and our offspring to be the best that they can be? I am not talking about perfection at all - no human being is perfect. What I'm asking is if it is fair to brand the quest for being the best with adjectives like 'nit-picking', 'over-achievement', 'picky', 'critical' etc?

Wouldn't I be a sorry example of a parent if I did NOT expect my kid to achieve her full potential? Wouldn't I be short-charging myself if I did less than I am capable of? Shouldn't we all attempt to autograph our work with excellence? Not perfection, but excellence? And, really, isn't there a very thin line that separates the former from the latter?

(I am writing this in a sombre mood today, maybe I'll return later with "????" at my own post but really, for now, why shouldn't we expect nothing but the best from ourselves and our near-and-dear?????)

Gayatri said...

Ok, I'm back and I'm ?????????? at my own post, just as I said I would, lol. Was a really crabby day yesterday when I wrote that rant up! :D