04 July 2010
To be or not to be....a PERFECTIONIST
If you are a perfectionist like me, then we have something to talk about today; if you are not one, excuse me, get back for my next write-up, today's is not for you.
Those who are still here, congratulations...we are God's best creation, atleast that's what we think about ourselves. Its true , there is no one in this world who can accomplish what we do, right? And proud human beings, who cannot accept anything lesser to perfection, wise, constantly vigilant, disciplined, we make life easy for others since they have it ready made.
Downside is that we are obsessed, decently hiding OCD (obsessive-compulsive disorder) under the wrap, never satisfied , often inviting psychosomatic disorders on us for e.g Migraine.
Well, I am not here to discuss this medically, what concerns me of late is that we are not unique as we thought, but in fact the odd ones out. Perceived as hyper critical, meticulous being branded as obsessed, worst thing is we cannot approve our own mistakes , leave alone others tolerating it.
I am surrounded by imperfect species, my loving and lovable ones are happy-go-lucky type. Many of my best friends benefit from my committed, genuine, discerning nature. All said and done, the issue is when I go wrong..imagine me going wrong, while I myself cannot accept that , I have a suspicion that those around me wait desperately for me to err, it starts something like " You too Brutus?" , goes on to victimizing me , deriving immense pleasure from " if you can, why can't we?" I bet you all have faced similar situation, taken for granted for your perfection, unemphatically and blatantly dismissed as inadequate and blemished.
I have thought about it for quite sometime and decided to go against my law; Why are we flawless? Is there any need to be? Afterall , we can also break rules, allow ourselves few pleasures, be one among then majority, more acceptable. Heaven wont fall on Earth if we mess around, or even if it does, who cares? No jewel is made out of pure gold, so ready to get tarnished.
The advantage here is all are pleased, relieved, they don't feel guilty about what they are and we are happy together. Let go, there is definitely fun is being imperfect, enjoy it and most important is when you go wrong others now do not wait to victimize you; instead they are glad to help you out; may be we can get healthier too.
Be a Roman while in Rome !!!! Let's be perfectly imperfect !!!!!