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16 October 2009

Let's talk

Okay, I am henceforth going to develop your and my own personality allowing Philosophy to take a back seat(to the relief of many).

This fortnight I made an unusual move. To nearly 100 of my acquaintances I posted a text message with a simple "Good Morning, want to know how you are". The response was interesting.While 25% busy bees didn't reply,10% reacted with a cold 'oh, huh??',the remaining were obviously pleased with the unexpected importance & attention. Even the inaccessible seemed immensely elated.With a handful, the conversation continues till date whether it is  on Obama or  Diwali.

Often, a small step is all that is required.  Initiating a dialogue warrants supreme confidence. Communication is the key that liberates us of all restrictions, regressions and eventually regrets.It flatters the flattened ego. After all, doesn't cost us the Earth.

Few tips to get going:
  • Start today:You really have no option.
  • Hold the conversations intelligently: Strike a balance between what you know & what the other person is interested  in. No need to prove you are a moving encyclopedia.
  • Try not to impress: The lesser you try,better it is. 
  • Be genuine: A simple,easy tool yet wins people. Let your every word be dipped in honesty, real care with not a tinge of hypocrisy.
I don't deny the fact that the reaction or often the lack of it  from the opponent dampens your spirit to hold a tête-à-tête.

 Try these:
  • Give the benefit of doubt: The person may really be busy/stressed. Not responding doesn't always convey resentment.
  • Refuse to get insulted: Not every approach works with every one. You are interested in strengthening your abilities....SO, dust it off. 
  • With the hard nuts: Those who are reluctant, rude, refuse to budge,, IGNORE.... no one is indispensable. The whole world is waiting to shake hands with us. 
All set ?? Put your best foot forward and .... Talk

24 comments:

Viewer said...

Your best ever,am I going to say this each time?

Mindbite said...

How come such a wonderful concept compressed in a capsule. Amazing Stuff. Human Bondage can't be wrapped for silly reasons(Busy life, etc...)

Destined to follow said...

Madam,please continue,this is simply amazing

nik said...

hey lady,awesome

Damodar said...

we're geeting very much knowledge from you di, pls keep them coming.
I'm glad that i'm following you.
No more words...lol

yogi said...

nice blog...

the lady said...

Thanks all:)

praneeth said...

kool

No name said...

I am not going to contradict you lady,may be you are right

srinivas said...

therz a saying..

RISK.ASK.DREAM.DARE.FALL.FAIL.

so asking or talking is the key for forging long term relationships...u hav a gud blog here..

byw do chek min and giv me ur views...http://www.srinivas-myspace.blogspot.com/

navin said...

Ich verstehe nicht

navin said...

Не понимаю

navin said...

איך טאָן ניט פֿאַרשטיין

Salman said...

fantastic blog re.....lets carry on......

Anonymous said...

do you walk the talk or make tall talks? you are still hiding behind the name of the lady,come out of it first of all

the lady said...

@ Navin,you seem to understand every language other than English:P

@ Anonymous,your comment is better than my write-up,I guess:D

navin said...

shinru sukru svunasti shadu sunidre musa rentra

navin said...

i was just joking it was an good work from you ( " LADY " )

hope your good works continue

Anonymous said...

i wont be pleased with all thes,u just dont have the guts

the lady said...

I definitely have the guts to approve your comment,don't I?Dear Anonymous,I don't get provoked.

Jumbo said...

Yup,you have guts

Hema said...

i just luvvvv this post of urs. It's just awesome!!!
Sure akka...lets talk ;)

Hema said...

it's funny how Anonymous is saying that u have got no guts... bcos ironically it's actually Anonymous who does not have the guts to even reveal his name

Vishwanath Seshadri said...

Wow. A good discourse to budding salesmen - why salesmen, it can apply to anyone wishing to expand and improve her relationships :)